It will be Mothering Sunday on the 11th March, a day when we remember our Mothers and all they do or have done for us. We are truly blessed if we have or have had a loving and caring mother. Sadly, for some, it can be a very different story.
For most of our Residents their Mothers have passed away long since but this can be a day when they remember them and we can listen to their stories and memories of their childhoods. It can be difficult sometimes because we do not want them to feel sad about the loss of a loved one which for them might feel like only yesterday. Of course, our female residents may well be mothers themselves and a visit from their family can bring joy on this special day. But for those who have no family or their family cannot visit for some reason this might bring sorrow or a feeling of rejection.
Mothering Sunday can be a bitter sweet occasion and we must be sensitive to the feelings of our Residents. We like to think that in a sense we are their family, we are here to care and support them in every way that we can, the way that a loving family might. My own Mother passed away many years ago and I miss her very much and although I feel sad that she is not around to see her grandchildren grow up or to meet her great grandchildren I have so many happy memories to nourish me and make me smile and I can pass these memories on to them down the years.
Our Residents may also wish to pass on their memories and we are here to listen, to laugh with them and to share their joy as well as their sorrow. But whether they are Mothers or not, male or female, it is all about Care. Not just Nursing Care but caring enough to pay attention to their words or just to hold their hand and make them feel respected, appreciated and valued.